Being a sensitive person, I have always overly worried about other people and this has caused me such unnecessary stress over the years. As I have said before, I could eat a perfect diet to keep my Crohns at bay, but if there was one thing I got anxious or stressed about it could set off a full blown flare. So it really is important for me to keep calm and happy as to not trigger any symptoms. The problem with this is I still have to live my life... No day is going to be 'perfect' and 'happy' all the way through, so it is about learning to adapt and how to cope with stress and anxiety. I myself, always try to be good person and do the right thing but things are sent to try us. Other people for example. No two people are the same and that means that you are not going to like and get on with everyone. I think I sometimes find this hard to get my head around, and find it hard to understand how other people think. When you put yourself out for someone and don't receive it back, it is hurtful. By no means do you give to receive, but when you go out of your way for someone and it isn't reciprocated its hurtful. And being a sensitive person anyway, it really affects me. I struggle to understand why someone could just be plain nasty for no reason, but this says so much more about them then it does about you. You are only responsible for oyur own actions, you cant control what other people do. If someone doesn't like you, its their problem, not yours. This is what I need to accept. If someone has something bad to say about you when you have done nothing wrong, that's their prerogative but I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me. It is something I am working on with my therapist who I still see once a week. Even though my Crohns symptoms are in a somewhat controllable state at present, I'm still not 'there', just 'getting there', so seeing my therapist really helps. She advises me with coping strategies and ways to minimise stress, and not letting other people in and letting them bother you. The main thing to solve this would be to be confident and strong enough in myself to not let anything else phase me. But this is much easier said than done.
I could think and think and think about a passing comment someone said and totally over analyse it and work myself up about what they meant behind it. But where does that leave me? Upset, anxious and most probably in pain! So to avoid anything like that, you have to shut off. Just do you. People are always going to talk and have something to say, but you have to pity them that they are not satisfied in their own lives that they have to cause trouble in yours. Instead of letting it bother you, you have to find ways to out the bad feeling. Lately I've found working out really helps me. As much as I sometimes can't be bothered, afterwards I feel amazing. I literally feel like I have sweated out all the bad emotion and feel new again. Reborn, like nothing could touch me or hurt my feelings. So as well as being exercise for my body, it is exercise for my mind. But if I really cant be bothered, a bath cuppa and rant to my mum often helps :)
XOXO Crohnie Girl
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